My babies are 17 years 11 months and 2 weeks apart. To answer the questions that always come after people learn this bit of information: 1. Yep, same mom and dad. 2. Nope, no other babies in between. 3. Yes and No, she was planned for a decade, but definitely not expected when she finally came along.
It’s been interesting, going through the baby stage almost two decades apart. In some ways, so many things have changed. In fact, most days, I’m surprised my first baby lived! Imagine that we let him sleep on his tummy, had bumpers in his drop-side crib, and faced him forward in the car seat at one year of age. And speaking of the car, he didn’t even ride in a booster seat past the age of four.
No, I’m not a negligent parent. This is how we did things back then. Popular wisdom, parenting books (there were no blogs) and the doctor’s offices all said it was ok. There were no weekly emails to tell me what to feed my baby and how he was growing. No video monitors to keep watch throughout the night. No Pinterest® to help me plan the perfect first birthday party. Oh, and no Amazon ® to deliver diapers and wipes right to my front door. Come to think of it, how did I survive?!
So knowing that most of what is so important now will be all wrong by the time our kids are grown, how do we focus on the stuff that will still matter? At times, I’m so overwhelmed by the advice, I just want to crawl into a cave and leave it all to chance. But somewhere between killing yourself trying to get it “all right” and throwing in the towel, I think there are a few things every parent can focus on that will still matter 20 years from now.
- This too shall pass, so make it count. In the middle of the Read the rest of this entry »